Importance Of Marriage & The Benefits Of Matrimony At An Early Age

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحىم

Importance Of Marriage & The Benefits Of Marriage At An Early Age

From among the benefits of getting married at an early age is the obtaining of children, which make the youth delighted at their presence. 

Allah says: 

And those who say: "Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqýn (pious)"

(Al-Furqan 25:74) 

Wives and children are a deligh; Allah promised that marriage brings about pleasure. This pleasure encourages and persuades the youth to take an interest in matrimony. 

This is also similar to how Allah mentioned that children are a share of this world's beauty. 

Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world. But the good righteous deeds (five compulsory prayers, deeds of Allah's obedience, good and nice talk, remembrance of Allah with glorification, praises and thanks, etc.), that last, are better with your Lord for rewards and better in respect of hope. 

(Al-Kahf 18:46) 

Therefore, this world is adorned by children. The human-being seeks out adornment the same ways he tries to obtain wealth. Similarly, he craves for children, because they are equal to wealth in their existence. This is in this world. Then in the hereafter, righteous children can benefit their fathers as the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said: 

"Whenever the son of Adam dies his action stop except three: Knowledge that benefits people, a recurring charity, and a righteous child that supplicates for his parent ." 

(Hadeeth Saheeh, Collected by Muslim #1631) 

The second benefit of matrimony at an early age is that it produces children increasing the Muslim Ummah and Islamic society. The Prophet (Peace be Upon Him) said 

"Marry the loving and fertile, for verily I want to have the largest Ummah on the Day of Resurrection." 

[Hadeeth Saheeh, Collected by Abu Dawud in his Sunnan (#2050), An-Nisa'i in his Sunnan As-Sughara (#3227), Al-Hakim in Al-Mustadrak (#2/162), and Ibn Hibban in his Saheeh (#4057), Al-Baghawee in his Sharh-us-Sunnah (#9/17), Al-Bayhaqee in his Sunnan Al-Kubraa (#7/81) on the authority of Ma'qal Ibn Yasaar. Graded Saheeh by Imam Al-Albani in his checking of Abu Dawud.] 

Great blessing result from marriage. From among them are the ones we previously mentioned. So if these virtues and blessings are explained to the adolescents, then the fallacious problems that hinder people from getting married will disappear. 

As for the saying that, getting married at an early age diverts from gaining knowledge and from studying, this is not the case. Rather, the opposite of this is correct because tranquillity, peace of mind, and pleasure never cease to be obtained through marriage. These things help the student to reach his goal because, he has peace of mind, and his thoughts are not cluttered due to discomfort and this helps him study. 

Now on the other hand abstaining from marriage in reality blocks whatever knowledge he wants to attain, because it is not possible to acquire knowledge in a state of confusion and anxiety. However, if he gets married, his mind is at rest and his soul is at ease. He gets a house to take as a shelter and a wife who relaxes and helps him. These things help him to attain knowledge. 

If Allah makes it easy and this marriage becomes a source of comfort to become a relationship, then this is from among the things which make it easy for the student to pursue knowledge. Matrimony does not block the path to knowledge as some believe. For that reason, having children is an enormous blessing in this life and in the next. 

As for the statement that marriage at an early age burdens the adolescent to supply provisions for his children, wife and other responsibilities, this also is not correct. Along with marriage comes blessings and well-being. Matrimony is obedience to Allah and His Messenger (Peace Be Upon Him) and there is good in every act of obedience. So if the youth gets married following the orders of the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) by seeking the blessings that have been promised with the correct intentions, then this marriage will be a reason for his blessings. The provisions are in the hands of Allah. 

Allah, the Mighty and Majestic states: 

وَمَا مِن دَآبَّةٍ فِي الأَرْضِ إِلاَّ عَلَى اللّهِ رِزْقُهَا 

And no (moving) living creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allah. 

(Hud 11:6) 

Consequently, if Allah makes it easy for you to get married, then He will make providing for your children easy. 

نَّحْنُ نَرْزُقُكُمْ وَإِيَّاهُمْ 

We provide sustenance for you and for them. (Al-An'aam 6:151) 

Marriage does not burden the young man above his ability as some of the people think. Marriage brings benefits and blessings. Matrimony is a necessary Sunnah of Allah for the human-being. Matrimony is not a horrible nightmare. It is only a door from the doors of righteousness for the person with the correct intention. 

As for the excuses about the obstacles placed in the path of marriage, then this is from their evil behaviour. Marriage in itself does not require such things as a plump dowry, parties which amount to more than required or other expenses with no authority from Allah. Rather, what is required is a wedding with ease. 

Hence, it is a duty to clarify to the people that these extravagances placed in the path to a wedding bring about evil consequences for their sons and daughters. These extravagances are not from their well-being. Therefore, it is a must to remedy these problems, so that matrimony can return to its ease and convenience. 

We ask Allah the Glorious and Most High to grant us the safety of success, guidance and to rectify the condition of all of us. We ask Allah to rectify the Muslim youth and to return the Muslims to their rank and honor the same way Allah gave the Muslim honor before. We ask Allah to return this honor and to rectify the Muslims state. 

Allah says the Most High: 

وَلِلَّهِ الْعِزَّةُ وَلِرَسُولِهِ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَلَكِنَّ الْمُنَافِقِينَ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ 

But honour, power and glory belong to Allah, His Messenger (Muhammad Peace Be Upon Him), and to the believers, but the hypocrites know not. (Al-Munafiqun 63:8) 

We ask Allah to give the Muslims insight in their religion and to protect them from the evil of their enemies. Peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and all his companions. Praise be to Allah.

Taken from: (Islam's Solution For The Problems Facing Todays Youth Pgs. 44-48)

By Ash-Sheykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan 

The Importance Of Marriage

(Kitaab An-Nikaah, Saheeh Bukhaari Vol: 7; Hadith Number:5065)

Chapter: The Statement of the Prophet 

(Peace Be Upon Him)

'Whoever is able to marry, should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.).'  And should a person marry (even if) he has no desire for marriage?

Narrated 'Alqamah: while I was with Abdullaah, Uthman met him at Mina and said, 'O Abu Abdur-Rahmaan! I have something to say to you.' So both of them went aside and Uthmaan said, 'O Abu Abdur-Rahmaan!  Shall we marry you to a virgin who will make you remember your past days?  When Abdullaah felt that he was not in need of that, he beckoned me (to join him) saying, 'O Alqamah'  Then I heard him saying (in reply to Uthmaan), 'As you have said that, (I tell you that) the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) once said to us, 'O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry, and whoever is not able to marry, is recommended to observe fast as fasting will diminish his sexual power'.

Shaikh Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz (Rahimahullaah) stated:

Therefore, to get marriage is the correct (thing to do) as a complete obligation upon the one who has shahwa (sexual desires) even if he is not in fear of falling to Zinaa.  This is with regards to the one whose situation allows him to get married.  

And in this is a (manifestation) of Uthman's righteous moral conduct.  It (shows) that the elderly person can get married as long as he has the strength for sexual relations.  

And the main address (in this hadith) is directed at the young people, because in most cases they possess greater desires and are more in need of that (i.e. fulfilment of such desires)

[Source: Al-Hulalul Ibreeziyyah Min At-Taleeqaat Al-baaziyyah Alaa Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree Volume 4; Hadith No:5065; Footnote Number 2]

A Noble Example For All Believers To Follow

The Patience Of Yusuf (Peace Be Upon Him) And His Fear Of Allaah In Turning Away From The One Who Called Him To The Evil And Shameful Act Of Zinaa

Imaam Sadi (Rahimahullaah) mentioned some of the difficult circumstances Yusuf (Peace Be upon Him) faced at the time when he was being called to the evil act of Zinaa.   

[1] Firstly; Allah has placed in man's nature an inclination towards a woman, just like the inclination of a thirsty person towards water and that of a hungry person towards food.  And even though many people do exercise patience with regards to their (desire) for food and drink, but not with regards to their (desire) for women.  This is not (something) blameworthy if it is in accordance with what is permissible, rather it is something praiseworthy. 

[2] Yusuf (at the time) was a young man, and the sexual desire of a young man is much stronger. 

[3] He was a bachelor. 

[4] He was a slave of the Azeez's wife and was bought for a few dirhams.  And a slave has no control over his affairs. 

[5] He was a stranger in the land; a stranger in a strange land can fulfil desires, which he is not able to fulfil in his own land and in the presence of his family and those who know him well. 

[6] The wife of the Azeez was a woman of high status and beauty; so one these two (affairs) calls one to agree with her request. 

[7] The wife of the Azeez was not inaccessible. 

[8] She sought after Yusuf; she desired him and was infatuated with him.  Many men become filled with vanity/pride when a woman (merely) waves or winks at them. 

[9] Yusuf was living in her house.  He was under her authority and would have feared being harmed for refusing to obey her in what she was calling him to. 

[10] Yusuf was safe from being exposed; because she sought after him and locked the doors. 

[11] She also appeared in her best adornment and said to Yusuf, 'Come on O you!' 

[12] She also threatened Yusuf with imprisonment and belittlement. 

[13] She sought the assistance of the rest of the women and Yusuf sought the assistance of Allaah against them.  He said: 

'Unless You (Allaah) turn away their plot from me, I will feel inclined towards them and be one (of those who commit sin and deserve blame or those who do deeds) of the ignorant' 

[Surah Yusuf; Ayah: 33] 

   

Despite all these difficult circumstances surrounding Yusuf (Peace Be Upon Him), he exercised patience and preferred obedience to his Lord.  He preferred the pleasure of Allaah and fear of Him.  His love of Allaah made him choose imprisonment over committing adultery.  He said: 

'O my Lord! Prison is dearer to me than that to which they invite me.'[Surah Yusuf; Ayah: 33] 

Yusuf knew that he could not avert what they were calling him to; and that if his Lord does not protect him and avert the plot of those women, he will be inclined towards them and become of the ignorant ones.  This is from Yusuf's perfect knowledge about his Lord and himself.